If At First You Do Not Succeed, Redefine Success.
People always want to be successful, but for me I want to ask someone what is success. The definition and goal for everybody about success is different. What is the success? I think everybody has different opinions about it.
At first, the success for me is getting the highest grades and going to better university. When I was in primary school, I think that I was so successful and perfect. I could get full marks for the every exam. After every exam, my rank will always be NO.1. So at that time my definition for the success is to get full marks and get the first rank. I felt so successful at that time. I was the top and excellent students during the teacher’s eye. So I believed that I was the most excellent students in my class. I would always be the NO.1.
When I enter the middle school, I feel everything is OK. At the first two years, I nearly always rank at the top 10. At that time, I thought that I was successful too. During the middle school, I always feel very happy. That is the happiest time during my life. At that time, I spend time on doing my homework and playing basketball. I really like this feeling. I promise, that is the happiest time I spend in my life. I played basketball with my friends every day. I really liked this kind of feeling and enjoyed it. At that time, I just enjoyed it very much. Every day I just played basketball and did my homework. The life was so easy and I was so happy. I thought that time I was so successful and happy. I really like that feeling. Good good study, day day up, that is the definition of success at that time. Eat more, sleep more, that is the situation I did that time.
But another turning point happened during the third year of the middle school. At this year, I loved a girl in my class and paid a lot of attention to her. But after this, I found I almost did not pay attention to my homework and classes. The grades for all my classes have been decreased so much. I was in a very terrible situation that I could not stop paying attention to that girl. I liked her very much. I thought I should make efforts for her. But what a pity, she almost did not pay attention to me. So at that time, I was really unhappyfor treating that one. I did not like the situation that I liked her but she did not like me. So this affected me really much. I tried the feeling of failure for the first time. I thought all mywhole world was black at that time. I first tried the feeling of failure. So that time I redefine the definition of success. I thought if I was successful, she should be my girlfriends. But unluckily, it had been a really big disaster for me. I liked her but she did not like me. I firstly experienced the feeling of being confused. I was so afraid because I was always excellent and perfect to pass different exams. Every time I always got the first rank during the exam. So when that girl confused me, I could feel very sad and disappointed. I really hated this feeling because that it destroy all my confidence I constructed before. My rank become lower and lower very quickly. I hated this kind of feeling. I lost two different important things at the same time: my perfect grades and that girl. I lost the hope for my life that time. I thought my life was a big failure.
I made a big mistake at that time because I paid all my attention to that girl and make my grades worse and worse. So that is a big reason which leads me to go to America. I hated this kind of feeling but I could not make myself clear. I was really in a trouble at that time. When I enter the high school, this feeling always followed me. So my grades became really worse and I very hated this kind of feeling. I worry about this problem for the whole three years. Until before the big exam, I decided to go to America because my situation was so bad and I could not go to have an excellent university.
When I came to America, everything has changed. I came to a new world and went to a new university. My whole world has changed after that. I really liked this new environment. I have new friends and new life, I am so happy for what has happened during my life. I receive everything new here. I am very happy and excitedto own a wonderful new environment. I have different life and ways to study things. In America, people do not care what the university you were in because everybody all has a good heart situation. Even you are rich or have power, we always have the same rights. It is different from the situation in Asian. I do not need to worry about it too much. Everybody is the same, the difference between them is that everybody has different choices for life. I prefer the American definition for success. If you think you are happy and have a comfortable life, you could besuccessful. American dream is different for everybody. For me, the definition for success is graduating from university and having a job in the USA. I thought that it is my successful definition. I did not like the Chinese way because people always compare the money, house and the deposit. For me, I just want a stable family, one comfortable way for me. If I could live in American society, I think that Ihave be successful. I could have a very comfortable life and I could make money, I think that I have become very successful. But in China, people may have the same situation but they just do not say it. Having a wonderful life is a really big success in America. Compared with lives in China, even though you are very happy and have a good life, but in other’s opinions, you are failure because you do not hold the power and treasure. So when I redefine the definition of success when I came to the USA. If at first you do not succeed, please redefine success. For me, I use my own experience to define the success.